Choose Your Perspective
“If I do the work, will it [life] ever be fun?” This was a question that a client asked me, while fear and doubt rested in her eyes with a heavy belief in her mind that life would not get any better.
What was I to tell her? The truth? The truth is, the work never ends. Yet there are opportunities to find fun and happiness in between. It all narrows down to shifting the perspective. You’ve heard me say this once, and I’ll say it 1 million times again, “every second you have 2 million bits of information offered to you, and only 126 bits of information actually lands in your conscious mind. The rest goes to your Unconscious Mind.”
If the 126 bits that you choose to pay attention to reflect struggle, then you have chosen to remain in the “blah” feelings of life and ignore all the enjoyment that can exist.
Knowing this is ultimately MY choice, rest assured, I will be choosing to view life through the lens of gratitude and excitement. Unfortunately, for most, it may not be that easy to make the shift. That’s why we have multiple techniques that help tap into the brain and connect your Conscious Mind to your Unconscious Mind.
Imagine having access to the information that sits in your Unconscious Mind. The possibilities then, are endless. NeuroLinguistic Programming (NLP), offers a diverse set of techniques allowing us to communicate with our Unconscious Mind, and relate that to the Conscious Mind. One of my favorite techniques also used is Mental and Emotional Release (MER)®.
Dr. Matt James states, “The goal of MER® is to release unresolved negative emotions and the limiting beliefs that hold us back from what we desire. The process itself uses our memories—both conscious and unconscious—to release the emotional charge attached to them. The memory itself isn’t erased or necessarily forgotten. The memory remains. But when clients think of that past event again, they no longer feel the strong negative emotions that were once attached to it.
The goal of MER® therapy is not to become emotionless. We will always have emotions and some of them will be negative. But by releasing past emotions, whatever we feel in the present will be appropriate to the present situation, not colored or exaggerated by an unresolved emotion from the past. And they will tend to disappear or change more quickly. For example, you will still feel grief over a major loss, but that grief will dissipate naturally rather than hang on.”
In brief, your baggage in the past does not run the show. It is ultimately easier to choose happiness, leading to a life that is more fun!
After experiencing MER® myself, I can attest that my perspective seemed to shift more easily. I can only explain it as if I had a veil removed. Colors radiated brighter, and my art pieces showed up sharper. I can choose happiness, positivity, gratitude, etc., and not just say it, but feel it throughout my body. This has allowed me to feel full alignment with my mind, body, heart, and soul.
So to answer my client’s question, “Do I still do ’the work’,” now that my perspective has changed? The answer is yes! To do “the work”, is to grow and to evolve. It is a way of life, while keeping all things interesting, new, and don’t forget... fun!
If you would like to learn more about MER®, please email elizabeth@youfirstnow.net.